Here it is again, one of my boys another year older. We are going to have a big family breakfast today because I have to work tonight and we are going to have a birthday party in the park Saturday with nothing but non allergic foods. I can’t wait.
Dear Little Boy A,
I can’t believe how this year flew by. You are 4 and what a year you have had. You have become one of the coolest kids I have ever met. You like to read and be engaged with activities. You like to swim, run, ride your bike, and play with kids. You had a great year in preschool and you really charmed the teachers and the kids in your class. You make friends everywhere you go and are usually easy going and happy.
You are my gardener. This spring you could not wait to plant seeds, you would ask me daily even when it was still cold out if it were time to plant yet. When I got seeds for the flower pots on the deck you were right with me even though all the kids on the block were on our driveway. You were overjoyed when we planted veggies in the side yard. We had some very cool alone time this past winter when Wildman was in school. You relished in getting to pick what you wanted to play with and not having to share. I could set you up with a snack and the toys of your choice and you could be busy for over an hour at times. You love to also help me with chores loving to be a helper and a big boy. You especially love to carry the trash to the garage. Please don’t loose that love.
I finally got you to wean in December. It is something you still talk about daily and I am really quite over it. It is ok to grow up and move on. You moved to your own bed this winter and once we got rid of the jail like crib you gladly moved to the gigantic big boy bed never looking back. You moved out of our bed so fast that your Dad still misses you. I am still amazed that I got you into your own bed after over 3.5 years of co-sleeping.
This year you will go to pre- k and I think you will do great. You are so good at school and the tasks they require of you. I am not too worried about you in school yet I never want to neglect you as the easy kid when living with the challenges of your brother’s ADHD. You and your brother still call each other best friend brother but you guys fight some too. His behavior upsets you at times. Just know Little Boy A that he loves you and sometimes his love hurts. He is rough but will quickly have a hug for you.
Now can we talk about your temper? WOW you have really developed a temper. When you are mad and I try to talk to you about anything that you have done wrong you usually turn your back and really freak out.
I hope I can help you with that temper. It will not be good for you to get so mad. Things are never as bad as they seem in the moment and a cool head can help in almost every situation.
Last night after swimming all day and missing your nap I told you that your eyes were red. You replied that they were green not red as you melted into your bed and fell asleep. Tonight your brother was telling you that you were a monster and you repeatedly complained, but no I am a kid. You recently stopped referring to yourself as a baby which is good. You are a kid and proud of it.
You are still very allergic to dairy, eggs, peanuts, pork, and beef. Whenever anyone has to cancel a play date or plans with you because they are sick you are convinced they ate peanuts and got sick. I don’t have the heart to tell you that most people can eat peanuts and not be sick. You are also getting very savvy about your allergies, what you are allergic to and how it makes you feel. You told me that when you get dairy on mistake it burns. This year at a birthday party they had a pinata. When the candy fell you were meticulous about picking out select pieces. You brought it over to be checked and you had only picked candy you could have. Then you crawled into my lap and proceeded to enjoy it. I was so proud of how responsible you are for yourself.
Lately you tell me that your two favorite things are volcano’s and worms. You are one of my favorite things.
Enjoy being 4 my littlest boy. You are special and I am so proud to be your Mom
I love you,
Mom




